“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m a failure.”
“I’m a waste of space.”
We believe these things on a daily basis—sometimes without even realizing it. But we can win this battle with the truth.
This devotional series is for all of us who need the truth about who we are so that we can fight the lies that bring us into the darkness every day. See what God has to say about who you are, revel in it, then share it with others.
Ephesians 1:3-6, 1 John 3:1, 1 John 4:10, Romans 5:8
- Make a list of people in your life who you know love you without a doubt.
- How do you know they love you?
- Based on these verses you read today, how do you know Jesus loves you?
Why is it so hard to believe that we are loved?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to ask my husband to tell me he loves me and then ask him why he loves me. He always obliges my request, but why do I feel the need to ask? Sometimes he even reminds me of the things he did for me that day out of love. Why didn’t I see those actions as signs of love?
For me, it’s hard to trust that people really love me because I’m afraid that the more they get to know me, the more they’ll start to see in my that causes them not to love me. Have you ever been afraid for people to see a certain side of you? Afraid that if they did, they’d stop loving you? It’s easy to see friends’ acts of love as obligations instead of joyful responses to their love for you. It’s easy to believe friends and family are more annoyed of you than actually enjoy your company. Do you have any friends or family members that are constantly apologizing for things? Like every request they make is accompanied with, “I’m sorry!” Or maybe you’re that friend! But constant apologies always point to the belief that we can’t possibly be a joy to others, so we must apologize for our very existence in their lives.
Why can’t we trust that we are loved?
The reality is that we were created to be in perfect relationship with God, but our sin, our wanting to do life on our own, completely messed that up. Now, we don’t know who we are anymore. If we were in our perfect relationship with God, we would never question if we are loved or not.
Did you notice that most of these verses you read today didn’t talk about God’s love for us without talking about how Jesus died for us?
Our friends and families might know fun ways to love us such as giving you gifts, writing handwritten notes, giving you a hug, showing up when life is tough, baking your favorite dessert, and being there whenever you need someone; but the greatest act of love came from God.
We tend to think of Jesus dying on the cross as this act that had to happen to take away our sin. And while this is true, we miss out on the beauty of the display of love that it is. When we see how much God loves us, it changes everything.
How can you know you are loved?
The God of the whole Universe—the all-powerful, almighty King of the Universe—entered humanity as a helpless baby. He grew up and no one knew paid much attention to him. He knew what it was like to be rejected and poor. He went on to be falsely accused of crimes he didn’t commit, abandoned by his best friends, whipped, beaten, mocked, and nailed to a cross. Seriously? The God that created everything we see decided to put himself through all of that? For you and me?
Jesus died in your place so that you could go free. He took all the sin—the destruction and pain it causes—and put it on himself. He destroyed the power it has over you and me.
He traded lives with us: our mess, our mistakes, our shortcomings, our failures for his perfection.
Now that’s true love.
This truth changes everything about our lives, but it won’t change anything if we never remind ourselves of it. In fact, it won’t change anything if we don’t strive to remind ourselves every day.
There is a war for our minds going on and we are powerless without the weapon of truth with us. The world, Satan and our own flesh are triple-teaming us every day with lies about who we are. It’s so hard to know what voice is truth anymore. But we have been given a weapon to fight back: the Word of God.
But what’s the use in a weapon if we don’t know how to use it?
Challenge yourself to read God’s word every single day so that it becomes a weapon you can skillfully use to fight the lies that bombard you every day.
You are loved. Remind yourself of what Jesus did for you to prove it to you. And remind yourself there’s nothing you can do that would make Jesus love you any more or less than he always has.
Now go do something with what you’ve learned:
- Memorize one or more of the verses that you read today. Write it in a place you look at every day.
- When you feel unloved, immediately remind yourself of what Jesus went through so that he could show you His love. Focus on that.
- Find more verses that talk about love and write them down or highlight them.
- Put on a hair tie or bracelet around your wrist. When you put it on, remind yourself of what Jesus did for you and how much he loves you. Whenever you find yourself looking at it or playing with it, remind yourself of the truth.
- Forward this email or share what you learned today with a friend or family member that is struggling with feeling unloved. Talk about it together.